Mended Musings


Sarah Bessey wrote an amazing book called Jesus Feminist that I devoured like candy. In her book, she shares her insights on the role of women in the church. As a new Christian and as someone still learning the “language”, I was never exposed to the varying opinions on what roles of women in the church should be so I was surprised by the way this issue divides people. As Sarah says in Jesus… Read More

“I had a cup of coffee,” I announced to my husband as he got home from work Friday afternoon. “Good for you,” he replied without a hint of sarcasm or condemnation. It was the exact opposite of how I felt. I’d endured a week of dietary restrictions – no wheat, dairy, corn or coffee (oh, blessed coffee, how I love thee). I’m not even sure how it happened. One minute I was… Read More

I’ve been having some health issues lately and when modern medicine failed to provide definitive answers, I sought the help of a doctor of homeopathic medicine. The good news is that what I thought was wrong is actually pretty minor. The bad news is that I have some other issues that could become chronic if I don’t get serious about preventative care. The really bad news is that I have to cut… Read More

My firstborn is almost 5 years old. My husband and I were talking the other day and I told him that I haven’t felt this content in my life since I was pregnant with our son. Basically, I haven’t felt any lasting contentment in over 5 years. That’s a long time.

My friend told me that it is customary to write a post thanking WordPress for Freshly Pressing me (or however you say it) so I want to take a moment to say thank you to WordPress for the honor. I also want to thank the WordPress bloggers and readers who liked and commented on Barbie Dolls – Don’t Be Hatin. I was a little concerned that the post would push buttons for some people… Read More

I’ve read about self-love for years. I’ve sought out everything I could read on how to love myself. I’m drawn to people who talk about it, write about it and practice it. I think everyone struggles with self-love from time to time but to those of us who have suffered trauma or abuse, loving ourselves often gets set aside for survival. Add in addictive behavior and the choices we make that revictimize… Read More

Today is my 2 year soberversary. A month ago when I started anticipating this day, I thought the blog post I wrote would be different. I thought I’d rehash the last year and talk about what I’ve learned.

This post was originally published on my former anonymous blog on April 9, 2012. I’m having a tough time this week, sliding on some slippery ice and I don’t want to write anything new until I’ve safely landed. I like to read through old journals and posts when I’m feeling off because they help me get perspective. This post speaks to me right now.

I’ve been hearing the phrase “lean in” a lot lately. Sheryl Sandberg popularized the term in her book of the same name but it’s been used by other people too. It can mean a lot of things from simply getting more involved to not running the opposite direction from what scares you. It can mean not sabotaging yourself by being afraid to experience happiness (what Brené Brown calls “foreboding joy”) or it can… Read More

Today marks the 30th day of my No Nelling Challenge, which I embarked upon to help me stop yelling at my kids. When I first got started, I thought that it would be possible to never yell but if it is possible, I’m not there yet. Luckily, I didn’t start over every time I slipped or else I’d be back on day 5. It makes me wonder about the pressure we put… Read More