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I was thinking the other day that I haven’t gotten in a fight with anyone in awhile. I haven’t even been annoyed by anyone either, but that could be due to the fact that I avoid Facebook as much as possible. I figured since I don’t currently have a conflict with anyone, now would be a good time to write a post about how to deal with conflict so that when the… Read More

Before my husband and I had kids, we had dogs. We were the kind of dog owners that thought we were superior to parents of children because to us, dogs were clearly superior to children. They don’t keep you up all night crying, you only have to feed them once or twice a day and they poop outside. If you want affection, all you have to do is invite them on the… Read More

I was honored when Janice at Crazy Good Parent asked me to write a guest post.

I’ve been hearing the phrase “lean in” a lot lately. Sheryl Sandberg popularized the term in her book of the same name but it’s been used by other people too. It can mean a lot of things from simply getting more involved to not running the opposite direction from what scares you. It can mean not sabotaging yourself by being afraid to experience happiness (what Brené Brown calls “foreboding joy”) or it can… Read More

I’ve come to the conclusion that I don’t have a Nelling problem as much as a general piss off/bad attitude problem; a chronic curmudgeon-ness that sneaks its way into my days and plants its stinky butt on my couch. I’ve found that when I purposefully speak gently and lovingly, even if I don’t feel that way, it makes such a profound difference to my kids that even if it is a big… Read More

My daughter, who is almost 3, comically controls her universe. If I scold her, she stamps out my words by saying, “Stop talking! Stop talking!” If I give her a disapproving look, she responds by closing her eyes so that she can’t see me. My son, on the other hand, is 4 ½ and developing a conscience. He can’t tolerate disapproval and will often respond with, “I want you to be dead… Read More

I talked to an acquaintance at a gathering about what he did for a living. He said he liked his job but not the office politics. Then, he started talking about a hiking trip he took and his entire being changed. He stood up straighter, held eye contact and got animated. I wondered what kept him from approaching his work like his hiking trip. I could definitely relate because I’ve held positions… Read More