A year and a half ago, I made a big, scary, necessary change in my life. It feels like forever ago and just yesterday at the same time.
There’s something about marking a half-iversary that’s more personal than celebrating an anniversary. It’s a halfway point between where I was 6 months ago and where I might be 6 months from now. There are no expectations of a big celebration, no pats on the back for a job well done. It’s just me witnessing my feelings: bitter-sweet, gratitude, hope. Read More
I talked to an acquaintance at a gathering about what he did for a living. He said he liked his job but not the office politics. Then, he started talking about a hiking trip he took and his entire being changed. He stood up straighter, held eye contact and got animated. I wondered what kept him from approaching his work like his hiking trip. I could definitely relate because I’ve held positions where I liked the work I did but not the atmosphere, or my co-workers, or the company culture. Sometimes, I even felt like a fraud because I knew I wasn’t being myself. Often, I was surrounded by frauds just like me. Read More
We took an impromptu trip to Agua Caliente on New Year’s Day, the park’s name mocking us as we shivered in the 42 degree weather. The kids had been cooped up in the house for days because when you grow up in the desert, this is really cold. We only intended to drive around for a while but the kids begged us to let them out. Children rarely give obvious warnings that their energy is about to consume them. We took their urging seriously and found a park. Read More
Life is a balancing act. You have to balance work and home. Achieve balance. How many times have we heard that it’s all about balance? I don’t see it that way anymore.
A lovely friend and I were talking one time about all the things we juggle with work and young children. She gave me some great insight into how she looks at life.
It’s not about balance at all. It’s about harmony. Read More
We can all agree that we all want a society where we don’t have to live in fear of armed gunmen terrorizing innocent people. The gap between where we are and where we want to be is immense. Read More
It’s been a long time since I’ve written you a letter. I’ve been thinking a lot about you and feeling a bit guilty. You see, I have two kids now and the threat of Santa’s naughty list comes in handy this time of year. I’m sure you hear that a lot. Read More
There’s a reason why this TED talk with Brené Brown has been viewed nearly 7 million times. It’s 20 minutes that could change your life.
Not long ago, I went through a wonderful phase of being super busy and loving it. It felt like I was on fire, moving seamlessly from one task to the next and finishing every project that came my way with a smile on my face. Inevitably, it didn’t last. One sick kid and everything came to a smashing halt and I lost my momentum. Kids can do that to you and so can life in general. Read More
I was struck dumb by envy a few days ago. One of my favorite bloggers released an excerpt from her new book and I couldn’t wait to read it. As I soaked up every word, my excitement turned to a sick feeling of discouragement. The excerpt was so awesome. It was everything I would write it if I could write like her. She was reading my mind! But instead of feeling understood and encouraged, I felt a sinking feeling that she’s saying everything I’ve ever wanted to say better than I can say it. Why bother to write at all? The best words have been taken. Read More